Recently I got in touch with my group of girlfriends from college after a gap of few years. Some of them have embraced motherhood and are proud mothers of happy children. Inevitably, 1 out of every 5 sentences they talk is about children and the related. I am not a mother yet, but I can relate to motherhood because of my wonderful nieces and nephews. Despite not being able to give much to the topics of being a mother, I find these conversations very enjoyable. So when a friend shared this article ‘ Sorry, but being the mother is not the most important job in the world’, it got me thinking. I wanted to stand clear on my thoughts about motherhood before I embrace it in future.
While this article can be very thought-provoking, in my opinion, it is can only be read as a one-sided article. I have seen my mother, the mother in my sister, the mother in my cousins and the mother in my close friends. While motherhood can be extremely overwhelming, I am sure that a part of all these mothers would disagree to what is said in this article.
Being a mother is not just about giving birth to a child, something that only a woman is entitled to or taking care of a child, something that a woman and a man can do. But it something more than all of this combined. Of course 16 hours a day in a cloth factory in Bangladesh, making bricks in an Indian kiln or being a Chinese miner is a very tough job. As tough as any other job. But being a mother is not just about stitching a dress or baking a brick or being a miner. It’s that one shot she has to make her child the best human being on earth. It is that one shot she has to shape her child’s life in the best possible way. It is that one shot that she has to be the role model and hero to her child.
Praising motherhood does not undermine the other relationships. Treating motherhood as the most important job in the world can only strengthen the ties that a child can have with the father, grandfather, teachers and friends. After all, how can a mother explain the importance of other family ties without creating a strong bond with her own child? And despite changing opinions and generations, isn’t it still true that every mother does something more unconditional that a grandmother, grandfather, husband, wife, teacher or a friend cannot do. It is not about being a mother in comparison to other relationships. It is about being the best mother a child can have.
Explaining the importance of motherhood can neither undermine the need for a woman to work and advance in her career. While both the phases of a woman’s life tend to overlap, both the roles are exclusive and independent of each other. It is up to the woman to prioritize what she wants in a particular phase of life. It would be foolish to say that victory in one role would mean failure in the other. After all, a child is happier when a mother considers her job to be the most important job in the world.
Oh, did I miss the perspective of a single dad or gay parents or other dads in general? It is best to leave it to the dads to explain their thoughts about being a father and in some cases even being the mother. Blessed is the child if the father too considers his job to be the most important one in the world. And of course he is entitled to that thought. After all, when it comes to the child, there can be no war between motherhood and fatherhood!!!
- Being a mother is not the most important job in the world (theguardian.com)